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<\/p>\nThe source of my inner turmoil I am experiencing is a conversation I have had with one of my daughters \u2013 all to do with \u2018feelings\u2019.<\/p>\n
A few days ago, a young girl we know tried to kill herself. She took an overdose of painkillers, crossed her fingers and hoped for the worst!<\/p>\n
The outcome was not what she anticipated \u2013 she survived. Aged just 15, she is now telling doctors and her family her only regret is she didn\u2019t succeed in her quest.<\/p>\n
As the conversation with my daughter developed, the word \u2018feelings\u2019 was used on several occasions.<\/p>\n
\u2018Dad you really don\u2019t get it,\u2019 said my 18-year-old as I drove her to college. \u2018When you are not feeling great about your life, some people may question what the point of living is?\u2019<\/p>\n
My daughter is quite right. Frankly, I don\u2019t get it \u2013 and I doubt I ever will.<\/p>\n
Come July, I will be 56-years-young. School life ended for me almost four decades ago. Even so, in the scheme of things, that isn\u2019t that long ago, and my friends and I had plenty to contend with \u2013 with many things affecting our \u2018feelings\u2019. But I don\u2019t recall many of us giving up on life.<\/p>\n
Of the two people who temporarily did try to kill themselves (both failing), they would both later admit these bids were a cry for help. Many years on, they are now happy and contented.<\/p>\n
I explained this to my daughter. Yet rather than diffusing the situation, it poured petrol onto the flames.<\/p>\n
\u2018Dad, you are trying to invalidate the feelings of people,\u2019 she said to me. \u2018These feeling are very real and very powerful. Who are you to question them?\u2019<\/p>\n
Today, it seems to me that our young people have very little in their lives that actually glues and knits them together. Mobile phones and social media are the oracles for many youngsters. Without them, they are impotent, incapable of existing.<\/p>\n
Or so it seems.<\/p>\n
And perhaps my frustrations at this deteriorating situation showed through when I spoke to my daughter.<\/p>\n
Nowadays many family relationships seem to be in pieces (the girl in question comes from a broken home); sex and promiscuity is the norm for teenagers; and where there was once a faith heartbeat that gave some form of spiritual direction (albeit teenagers often chose to ignore it), today there just seems to be a lot of vacuous noise coming from a variety of Christian denominations.<\/p>\n
In such a world, where nothing really appears to matter other than money, looks and status, is it any wonder young people are increasingly feeling lost \u2013 and, in some cases, actually losing the will to live?<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t know how we sort this growing problem out. But I do know preaching to our young people is certainly not the answer (albeit often I fail on this front).<\/p>\n
But I remain convinced the Church has the biggest role to play in helping society dealing with the ills that afflict it. And when I say \u2018Church\u2019, what I am really saying is the \u2018people of the church\u2019.<\/p>\n
Those of us who believe in Christ\u2019s purpose and mission need to stand up and be counted. Our communities need selfless, godly people who stand for something greater than themselves \u2013 and who are prepared to invest time and effort in those that need support. And these people are not always the homeless or those people suffering poverty or abuse.<\/p>\n
Sometimes they are young people, like the girl my daughter and I know, who are lost and their \u2018feelings\u2019 are in overdrive, skewing the way they think and behave. These people are in desperate need of some non-judgmental guidance and love.<\/p>\n
In my humble opinion, there is only one place where this can come from. Therefore, my challenge to myself and you is: are we prepared to give it?<\/p>\n
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Tony Yorke is Deputy Editor of Sorted<\/em> magazine.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I am feeling a bit agitated. The source of my inner turmoil I am experiencing is a conversation I have had with one of my daughters \u2013 all to do with \u2018feelings\u2019. A few days ago, a young girl we know tried to kill herself. She took an overdose of painkillers, crossed her fingers and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":692,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17,1546],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8589","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-free-content","category-homepage"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8589","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/692"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8589"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8589\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8597,"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8589\/revisions\/8597"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8589"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8589"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/runyourownwebsite.uk\/sorted\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8589"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}